We did The Rules, wrote The Rules, and have helped millions of women do The Rules, too. Whether you were recently hurt or haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you want immediate gratification and compensation for all the pain and heartache of recent years or even decades.But get a grip and tell yourself there is no shortcut to courtship, things take time, so you must not act impatiently or desperately.
But when we wrote The Rules seven years ago, little was known about online dating-many even considered it dangerous -- so we did not even include it.
By 1997, when we wrote The Rules II, there was a little more interest in online dating and we wrote a short chapter telling women the pitfalls of this chat-intensive dating method, how to best apply The Rules, and how to play it safe.
In the last two years, we've seen a rapid shift in our consulting business -- today about 50 to 75 percent of the calls and e-malls we get concern relationships being conducted on the Internet.
And these women have been asking us for a book of Rules for dating online.
E-mail courtship has made dating more hazardous than ever.
With e-mail, women are tempted to let their guard down, let it all hang out, Instant Message men all night, and have cybersex (not The Rules! But we believe you cannot e-mail with abandon, without thinking, without Rules.But these mistakes can be easily corrected with a set of Rules do's and don'ts. In this book, you will find out, among other things: You may be wondering at this point: If the premise of The Rules is that a man must pursue a woman and she must be mysterious and challenging, how is that premise going to work on an Internet dating website where you have to post a photo and describe yourself in an ad for all the world to see?You can definitely retain your mystery and keep yourself from being too available on dating websites and even in chat rooms.Women meeting new men at business conferences, birthday parties, or clubs give out their e-mail addresses and also take men's e-mail addresses, and then find themselves in an e-mail relationship with a man.These women are just as prone to making the same mistakes online as women using online dating services and chat rooms -- mistakes that can ruin their relationships.Unfortunately, no matter what your heart says, you must hold back a bit for your own good.