Super nice guy; friendly, well-groomed, successful career—the whole meatball.
He was in Rome for a few months on a very specific mission: to meet and eventually marry a nice Italian girl.
As to the “why” behind the lack of date-nights, nearly 60 percent say they don’t need a relationship to be happy.
Never before in their lives have they been showered (inundated, pummeled) with such overt attention from the opposite sex—and most of them are ill-prepared to deal with it.
Even when they recognize the obvious ruse for what it is, there is something inside them that wants to ignore the fact that they’re being played and just enjoy the attention.
The truth is, we don’t have the slightest clue of what’s going on right in front of us.
Case in point: last summer I met your typical Italian-American goombah at an aperitivo on the Isola one night.
The women are tired of the aforementioned routine where proper decorum implores them to resist, even if they’re genuinely interested in the boy in question.
So now some of them are forsaking this centuries-old script in favor of a more a direct approach; only the Italian men are at a loss and don’t like it one bit.For years they’ve assumed that “I don’t like you” is not to be taken seriously, whereas “I like you” is synonymous with “let’s go to bed.” This new honesty puts them off because it neutralizes their advantage in the hunt.Herein lies the conundrum and perhaps one of many reasons why the birth rate among Italians is among the lowest in the western world.Meanwhile our competition—the smooth-talking, Prada-wearing Italiano—has all the advantages when it comes to both the local girls and female expats.He’s been practicing his art in situ since he was old enough to shout “ciao, bella!I couldn’t help cringing when I heard of this plan, but I wished him luck and offered my advice, should he desire it.