" And the young returned missionary will say to his girlfriend, "I am sorry, but as much as I love you, I will not marry out of the holy temple." ("To the Young Women of the Church," Ensign 16 [November 1986]: 84.) Our Heavenly Father wants you [young men] to date young women who are faithful members of the Church, who encourage you to serve a full-time mission and to magnify your priesthood.
(President Ezra Taft Benson, "To the Youth of the Noble Birthright", Ensign, May 1986, p.
Since a major component of the gospel is the concept of eternal marriage, Latter-day Saints are encouraged to only date and marry faithful members of the Church.
45.) Clearly, right marriage begins with right dating.
A person generally marries someone from among those with whom he associates, with whom he goes to school, with whom he goes to church, with whom he socializes. Do not take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless.
If both spouses will live their lives in accordance with the Lord's will, then these priesthood blessings will enhance their marriage in ways not otherwise possible.
(See Teachings About the Family home page) Members who ignore the counsel of Church leaders on this issue are not punished or ostracized by the Church or its membership.
I believe it is a cruel thing to expose a nonmember to that risk.
I have received dozens of letters from heartbroken nonmembers who can't understand why the person they love ended their relationship.41) Our Heavenly Father wants you [young women] to date young men who are faithful members of the Church, who will be worthy to take you to the temple and be married the Lord's way.There will be a new spirit in Zion when the young women will say to their boyfriends, "If you cannot get a temple recommend, then I am not about to tie my life to you, even for mortality!In other words, Latter-day Saints believe that when two people enter into temple marriage (i.e., eternal marriage) and are faithful to their covenants, then they will rise in the resurrection as a married couple and live together forever in the married state.Members are encouraged to stay away from any path which might take them away from this great blessing.True, a small percentage have finally been baptized after marrying Church members. Others who did not join the Church were still kind and considerate and cooperative and permitted the member spouse to worship and serve according to the Church patterns.