I’ve had some interesting matches on Tinder, where guys wanted to know if I was into bondage, or they were married and here on work, and wanting to hook up!
I also met a guy on Tinder who was here on holiday; three months down the track, we’re still talking and have seen each a few times, but he doesn’t live here, so the long distance thing is tough.
I’ve lived in Europe and the US, but I was always in this same relationship.”* Names changed to withhold identities.
It’s a collection of colonial buildings that have been refurbished as restaurants and dressed with palm trees and tropical plants. And so I came to realise a couple of things about people in Singapore.
They even have mosquito spray on hand to ensure that you are not eaten before you eat. A few nice meals, trips to the movies, some shopping and ice cream, we’ve all been there. They often stop dead right in the middle of something and change direction, rather inconvenient when you are behind or alongside them.
There also seem to be a lot of younger guys out there who are into older women – something I wouldn’t say no to!
Susan: I’m a rookie, so I’ve only been on a handful of dates, and all of them have gone quite well.
The guys were really nice, and we had the same interests so the conversation was good. Singapore is small, so your single friends may well end up dating the same guy you’ve dated.
It has happened to me, but as there was no real connection on the date anyway it wasn’t an issue.
My success rate is slightly more impressive than Gordon Brown’s attempts at smiling, and just as pretty. Though finding a woman here has been far easier than in the UK, keeping or understanding them has been a whole new ball game.
Under orders from a family that feared my disappearance into oblivion and with a driven sense of mission and newly discovered optimism, I signed up on a dating website on arrival here in 2008.
Let me preface this with a few important considerations. Admittedly, I tend to look down at the ground when I smile and I look better in suits than shorts, but I don’t stop traffic.
Not unless I decide to cross without the guidance of the green man, a crime against humanity here in Singapore. My past is littered with examples of unrequited love, pointless pining and disastrous misjudgments.
Whether you relocated on your own or you’ve been unintentionally thrown into the singles scene through the breakdown of a relationship, dating in an unfamiliar country can be both exciting and daunting.