This may be a backward way to begin this article, but I have to say it: I’ve never actually been that great at casual dating.I tend to let my feelings, carried on the wings of my very vivid imagination, get away from me almost immediately when I meet a guy I like.Online dating is also relatively popular among the college-educated, as well as among urban and suburban residents.
Yet even some online daters view the process itself and the individuals they encounter on these sites somewhat negatively.
Around one in ten online daters (13%) agree with the statement that “people who use online dating sites are desperate,” and 29% agree that online dating “keeps people from settling down because they always have options for people to date.” Familiarity with online dating through usage by friends or family members has increased dramatically since our last survey of online dating in 2005.
(If one more person with a spouse asks me, “But have you tried online dating?
” I swear I will scream.)It’s easy to let your mind go wild with “the grass is always greener” fantasies and convince yourself that marital status equates some kind of superiority. Trust me, I’ve been down this rabbit hole a thousand times and the only place it leads is straight into an entire row of Oreos.
One in ten Americans have used an online dating site or mobile dating app themselves, and many people now know someone else who uses online dating or who has found a spouse or long-term partner via online dating.
General public attitudes towards online dating have become much more positive in recent years, and social networking sites are now playing a prominent role when it comes to navigating and documenting romantic relationships.
I am the world’s biggest believer that every romantic paramour—however briefly they may stay—comes into your life for a reason.
Some are there to remind you when you deserve more from a relationship than you’re getting.
It’s easy to believe that if your friend is married, she must know something you don’t. There is so much to learn during your time as a single person, whether you embrace casual dating or not. You will always know things that your friends who married young don’t know.
(And vice versa, of course.) Feel grateful for the opportunities you have to meet new people, learn about yourself and experience some variety—it’s the spice of life, after all.
Maybe you just needed to feel a different person’s hand in yours.