I don’t even care that he makes half the money I do.
I’m just so thrilled that he’s sensitive, attractive, affectionate, and attentive, and that he chose me!
And if you find that you can’t put up with his disrespectful behavior – and you have every right to feel that way – you know what you need to do.
Evan, I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost a year now and things are good between us.
If you fell for her because she’s sexy, you don’t suddenly tell her to dress like a nun out of your own insecurity.
That’s hypocritical and it’s no wonder that creates unnecessary tensions in the relationship. By calling him out, you embarrassed him in a passive-aggressive way.
To bring this back to you, Karen, it sounds to me like you have a good guy on your hands who has a big blind spot. Yes, he deserved it, but there IS a better way of handling it….
Namely, you need to have an emotionless heart-to-heart with him. Instead, find a time when everything’s humming along and say, “I’ve been thinking…” Now you have his attention.
Talking to strangers isn’t a habit – it’s a personality trait – one that doesn’t go away upon request. I spent a half hour talking to a very attractive man in her presence at an art gallery, but didn’t get chewed out for it.
No, my crime was in talking to someone that my girlfriend felt was threatening – even though the threat was all in her head.
He’s even commented about how happy he is with me because I’m so easy-going.
It seems like a match made in heaven and I’m crazy about the guy. And I just can’t tell if it should be a deal-breaker or not.
He tells me all the time how beautiful I am, and sexy, etc., and how lucky he is to have found me. The problem is, that whenever we go out, he looks at other women. I think that it’s rude to my partner, although I am tempted to show him how it feels! I couched it in a joking form, to make the comment, but let him know that I’ve noticed his staring. I didn’t ask him why, just said something to the effect of: “oh, it’s the beer in her hand you were looking at?! How do I avoid an argument that will be simply denial on his part, and be productive to let him know this really bothers me, that he goes out of his way to look/stare?