‘I almost wept when I read her blog about going to a wonderful party hoping to meet someone,’ my friend Ruthie explained. You know you are being unrealistic and that it won’t happen — yet when it doesn’t, you can’t help being disappointed.’Ruthie is 47 and one of the most attractive women — of any age — that I know.
He is paunchy with grey chest hair and not especially rich.
He plucked her from a surfeit of willing women, watching him like vultures before my friend “got” him.’This may be the case in some circles, but is it generally true?
Here’s what they said, followed by my thoughts on how they might overcome these dating problems and attract their best relationship.◊♦◊This is a common complaint from women. So guys, please pay attention to more than the boobs and the butt.
The other B, the brain, is just as important, especially as you’re getting to know a woman. Anyone who’s looking for a true connection is more likely to find it with someone closer to their age.
Ruthie has been looking for a boyfriend for the past decade.
‘I always had boyfriends when I was younger and assumed I would again after James was born,’ she says. These chats were fun — and sometimes quite flirty — but if I ever suggested we meet, the men would often back off, saying they were not looking for a relationship.’A dozen or so dates followed over the years, none of them quite right.Sadly, yes, according to Dr Bernie Hogan, a research fellow at Oxford University.He pointed me towards a research website called Ok Trends, which draws on data supplied by more than a million members of Ok Cupid, one of the biggest dating websites in the world.I know many really smart people, including my son, who don’t have high degrees, and many people with a Ph. The woman, who is divorced but says she would love to be married again, describes herself as being ‘on the wrong side of 45 with a brace of kids’ and bewails her place in ‘relationship no-man’s land’, condemned to be alone for the rest of her days.The typical 42-year-old man will accept a woman up to 15 years younger, but no more than three years older — and the women he enters into online conversation with are almost always at the younger end of the spectrum.‘My two terriers run barking to greet me, but apart from them, there is silence. I’ve lost a lot of confidence.’‘Over 40, most of the people you meet socially will already be in a relationship,’ he points out.