You don’t want to go from one relationship and jump into another relationship. I would tell anyone looking to start dating after divorce not to be in a hurry. I think it was year four when my ex came back and I started getting into the dating scene, because all of the sudden I had weekends open, and I was interested.
I went on occasional dates, and I took advantage of that time and did the online dating routine.
I think what people need to do, men or women, they need to take a look at the reason why they want to date because if the reason why you’re wanting to go out and have somebody is because you’re lonely, then that means you don’t know who you are.
Some women who I work with have been divorced less than one year and they just like to go out to have this social interaction.
I don’t have a problem with that, that’s fine, but understand that that’s what you’re going out for. Right, fall in love and get married within the next year.
If someone says to me “I’m lonely and I don’t know what to do with my time,” I say,“Well, you don’t know who you are then because you’re not comfortable in your own skin and you need to find that external factor to make you feel whole, and if you need someone to make you feel whole, it’s not going to work long-term.”For me, it was seven years before “Mr. It might not be seven years for other women, but I needed time to heal and to get to know who I was, because once the alcohol was removed, I realized I didn’t know who I was.
Sooner or later most people start dating after divorce. We’ve been dating for two years now and it’s wonderful to have a man in my life that I truly love.
I knew from her newsletter that my current guest, Debbi was in a relationship so I asked her to talk about her experience dating after divorce. You don’t go from being married and turn around and get married again.
So it didn’t take me long to decide I wasn’t going to date a man who had not been divorced for more than one year. But I had to do a lot of changes, and that was my journey.
Waiting that long was absolutely the right thing for me to do, but I can tell you that I don’t advocate for other women to follow my path, unless it’s evident that they need to do that.
One of the scariest aspects of being a divorcee is the prospect of dating again. Your inclination, therefore, is to want to connect, and perhaps even rush into re-partnering. You should wait about a year before seriously dating anyone.