I didn't want to date guys who treated me like I should get impressed that they had a car or wanted to pay for dinner. Don’t ghost because shit comes around and someone you really like will ghost on you and you will internalize it and wonder why and if you’re defective. You can’t want a cleaner world and toss your bag of Wendy’s out your car window. I'm older, and I never bought into the dating culture. Most likely, you guys are both looking for something that will turn into a relationship. If you have been inside someone or someone has been inside you, both of you have a right to ask what’s up. If you don’t want to be monogamous, then tell them. I am really not that willing to throw myself out there, because no one remembers how to do this. For right now, at least I know what I have with my diehard friends!
Then I would drive to the movie theater to buy the tickets in advance so we wouldn’t have to wait in line (this was before the Internet). So dating just becomes a bunch of lottery balls bouncing in the glass box. I’m going to speak to men because hopefully, men are still taking the lead these days. Or if you’re gay, I’m talking to whoever takes the lead. They've been taught that masculinity is toxic and if she doesn't like you it's "creepy" and creepy is a slippery slope to "rapey".
And of course, dinner reservations were already made. Instead of creating a space for romance, curiosity, build up, foreplay, and flirting, we just want the punchline. Except the lottery balls are faces and the glass box is our phone. These young men never signed up for emasculation - they were emasculated by inept mothers who blindly signed up for feminism's agenda for men.
Be a good human, the kind that your kids would be proud of, and be respectful. But if you are not transparent, you are already screwing things up.
I understand that’s difficult because it takes vulnerability.
Because they are too and it’s your job to set the tone. I prefer to meet people in normal life settings than when they prep to show off.
I'd rather be with someone who owns little so we can fit in a smaller home and take a long vacation with the money we save on housing and storing stuff.
I didn't have money for good clothes back then, so I couldn't dress up for special events.
I felt guilty that I couldn't afford dinner after paying for school and hoped to find a guy who would adapt to my budget. How would they act when life through them a curve ball?
Once you’ve seen them, and by seen I don’t mean in photos, either in person or Skype or Facetime or any live video platform, ask them out. If a man doesn't act like something is a date then it isn't a date. IMHO, hanging out will never morph into a relationship without a dating process.