When my girlfriends and I are sitting around sipping Sancerre and talking about our romantic lives of late, there’s one topic we come back to again and again: Those of us who are single all seem to have different approaches to how we use dating apps.
Some of my friends exclusively use Bumble but fumble over how to introduce themselves.
I think you’ll find their thoughts both reassuring and inspiring.“It was a while ago now, but what I seem to remember is that she asked me something about Marley (the dog in one of my photos),” says James about meeting his now girlfriend on Bumble.
Most hook up sites tell you when someone is live on their site.
Choose the appropriate time to send your email when she’s on.
It’s just sort of a green light.”I found this feedback to be a bit of a relief and an annoyance.
I appreciated his sort of traditional, “Let the guy do the woo-ing” perspective, but wait a second— ago?
Also avoid lame openings like "hi," or "hello," and don't make it clear from the start that you're creeping on her pics.
Really reading whatever she's written on her profile is much more important.
Even though I write about this stuff all the time, I haven’t found any magic formula That said, sometimes it’s best to go to the source, so I decided to ask some real, living, breathing men about what kinds of intros piqued their interest on dating apps.
My hope was that talking to men who have been on the other side of the screen would give me some kind of secret intel that we women could really put to use.
I pressed him to tell me more, and eventually he conceded that while a simple greeting is fine, it’s not anything that gets his attention.“My favorite is when it feels a bit personal,” he continued. Rather than trying an array of silly jokes or a slew of funny GIFs, you can actually take the same approach to each introduction: authenticity.
“Either a callout from my bio or making fun of a picture of me, whatever seems most playful. Compose a short but unique comment or question, tailored to each guy’s profile.
The takeaway is being lazy with your Tinder or Ok Cupid game will bite you.