I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him.
Because he had a reluctance to grow up, he wanted to stay young in as many ways as possible.
The next time we ran into each other was when I went to interview for a job in the ski resort's lift department, which he happened to be in charge of. I think he can't really find a woman to keep up with him, even in his own age group. The man I dated was essentially an 18-year-old himself when it came to maturity.
Her older brother had invited a bunch of the people they worked with at the mountain over and I happened to be there. I think he was attracted to me because I asked him out, and I was able to banter with him off the bat.
My theory is that the two are linked and that the age difference facilitates a dom/sub dynamic.
Woman B: I think I've always been attracted to people older than me. There is a particular immaturity connected to the hookup culture which I just have no time for. I've found that most guys my age have trouble dealing with strong-willed, smart-mouthed girls, even though we are supposed to live in an age of feminism and all.
Did/does it impact sex at all, for better or for worse? This was one of the many ways the relationship was emotionally abusive — sex was always ostensibly on the table, but no matter how much I threw myself at him, I was always rejected. The fact that this man didn't want to have sex with me in spite of claiming to love me, in spite of the fact that men allegedly always want sex, in spite of the fact that they allegedly especially want sex with much younger women — all of this made the continual rejection especially painful. We have different tastes sexually — I'm more adventurous — but that has nothing to do with age.
If anything, his emotional maturity has allowed us to have those tough conversations about sex.
Woman D: The impact on the sex was definitely negative.
At 18, I was just beginning to explore my sexuality and he was already comfortable in his.
Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all.