They will cross oceans, conquer nations, and work their fingers to the bone.And all the while, they think of nothing else…they are wholly, ruthlessly focused on re-acquiring the love that they’ve been deprived of, and nothing will stand in their way.
You will be in many ways immune to them, above them, outside of their reach.
You will pass through them like Moses walking calmly across the dry ground of the red sea, walls of water looming on either side.
Take away a child’s favorite toy and put it on a high shelf, where he can see it but not reach it. For the next phase of that child’s life, he will do everything in his power to get you to give him that toy back. Now think of that child as a young adult, and that toy as true love.
Think of what people will do when they are suddenly deprived of the person they love.
It will make you unhappy fast if you’re not doing something fulfilling. It will tell you that you should be better…that you should be more. Move the toy slightly closer to his level every time does something nice.
And the only way to make that voice leave you alone is to give it what it wants: go out there and do it; change your own little piece of the world, and that little voice will cheer you on. Once he realizes the connection between doing good and the toy moving closer, you will have the most well-behaved and obedient child on earth (so long as the toy stays important to him).These are the qualities of a nice person, a kind person, a loving person.Somebody with a big, strong heart that will stay untainted even as the hearts of those around them are poisoned.You will see friends get pregnant accidentally, far too young; and watch as it totally stalls and redirects the course of their young life.You will know somebody who got an abortion, and you’ll see how inconsolably guilt-ridden they are about it.But there’s a catch: This desire to do great things with your life — your ravishing hunger for depth and meaning — is a burden as much as it is a blessing.