Grindr has acquired a somewhat iconic status in the gay community and understandably so.It was the first geosocial networking based site and as such, it made the gay-dating game mobile in a way which no other site had achieved before.At the time, I used to berate myself quite severely for it, but I may have been doing myself a favour.
Beforehand, I researched the charity and read the testimony of a young man who had met someone he had been chatting to on an internet dating site.
It was the first contact he had had with other gay men.
They are risking both their physical and mental health, and they are willing to do it because they crave the love, acceptance and security they haven’t found at home, in their communities or within the educational system.
Anyone who has spent time on Grindr or Gaydar will know that it is common to receive sexually aggressive messages accompanied by photographs of the sender in provocative poses, often naked.
A decade ago, I just didn’t have the emotional confidence to refuse.
I suspect that while there are a lot of young gay men who are sexually empowered and psychologically well-adjusted, there are also many who suffer from low self-esteem as a result of having grown up gay in homophobic environments.In many cases, these will be positive experiences, but not always.When I was younger, more inhibited and less trusting of others, I used to hang around on Gaydar for hours, chatting with men I wasn’t even brave enough to meet.Sex education in schools is, at best, perfunctory, and for gay kids it’s largely non-existent.For most young gay men, sex education is something that is acquired through exposure to sex itself, via porn, and later with partners who are often more experienced than they are.1000s of happy men have met their soul mates on Gay Cupid and shared their stories with us. Whether you’re looking for a date or the love of your life, find them in a fun and secure environment on Gay Cupid.