Therefore, either have a friend so you all pair up, or you need an odd number: 1, she is by herself; or 3, so she can spend some time with you because she leaves two friends together.
American girls are much less used to guys being gentlemen — opening the door for the lady, waiting for her to sit before you sit, etc.
I apologise to my male readers, this is dating from a girl’s perspective, however, at least it may give you an idea of what you’re competing with when you’re trying to woo a local girl.
These guys get an A for organisation and Rome is made for these types of multi-location dates where swimming merges organically into dancing over aperitivo anyway.
I had one experience where a boy picked me up for an aperitivo, followed by a fashion parade, followed by a trip out to a major party in a villa halfway to Tuscany and after dancing until sunrise I was dropped back home to sleep for two hours before he was back to take me out to his family’s country villa where his father was cooking a traditional lunch.
” or even “A group of us are going to Sardegna for the weekend, there’s a yacht, there’s a house, there’s a party – no pressure, we just go as friends, I pick you up in 10, bring a bikini and a cocktail dress.” This kind of invitation does happen in Italy and it can be tempting because often they are ‘group activities’ so you’re not inclined to get romantic if you decide you don’t like their company halfway through a cocktail in Positano… Italian men pay for everything and so it’s my opinion that if you’re still undecided about your feelings for the ‘whisker’, it’s good manners to decline a weekend where he foots the ‘ to show you Rome by night on my Vespa.” How many times have I heard this?
And you know, the first three or four times it really is a beautiful way to spend an evening.
In Italian we say (roughly translated): “He who begins well is halfway done”. An American girl will show you if she has interest in you, and she won’t be afraid to ask you out. But in Italy, especially for the first date, looks definitely count a lot.
If she says she can’t go when you ask her out for a date, it’s probably true. An Italian girl always wants to know how much you are willing to work for her. American girls pay attention to how they dress, but guys… They’re often deemed as looking acceptable once they meet the minimum standards.
They insist on picking you up from your door because they want to show off their very expensive car, even though the restaurant is within walking distance.
I had one of these types pick me up in what seemed like a spaceship Lamborghini and take me to La Pergola, the only three-Michelin star restaurant in Rome.
An American girl giving you her phone number means she is considering going out with you. With an Italian girl, you will work hard just to get her phone number. The fact that she says no the first time doesn’t mean she can’t go out or doesn’t want to. Now, the third time she says no, she means it (and don’t insist). Italian guys take the same amount of time to get ready as American girls.