If he absolutely must see you every day, 24-hours-a-day, there's this arrangement called marriage....him figure it out!
Dating Mistake #4: Jumping into a "whirlwind romance." If your love life looks a bit like Jennifer Anniston's, your 0-to-60 relationships might benefit from a judicious application of the break pedal.
Yes, speed bumps can be annoying, but without them you'd end up driving too fast, without adequate time to observe, maneuver and react.
If you want to get married but the guy you've been dating for over a year still isn't sure, set a time limit of how long you're willing to wait then stick to it.
Once D-Day (decision day) arrives, and he's still waffling, then move on and do not look back (if he's ever going to know and man up to a proposal, this will be your best - and his last - chance).
If he's truly smitten by you, he'll rise to the challenge and cherish you more.
If not, then let him float away now, before he wastes more of your time and ends up breaking your heart. Look approachable and friendly - that's all the encouragement your future (adoring) husband needs. You've just met the guy and you're telling him about the back-stabber in your office, the fight you had with your sister, the details of your recent root canal. During the first few dates, the man is still essentially a stranger.
While there are always exceptions, the women I coach who are struggling with boyfriends who won't commit or husbands who ignore them almost invariably made the first contact.
A man may date and even marry a woman who approached him first, but there will likely be consequences later on..he approaches the girl he really wants. Quick Fix: If you talked him first or even asked him out, you can try to restore some of the feminine mystique and you forfeited as the initiator by being a bit more elusive - a little less available, a little more mysterious.
Having trained with authors, Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, I recommend their "three days in advance" rule - e.g.
he calls by Wednesday night to ask you for Saturday.
Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).